tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7332117297336636395.post1505540009980450523..comments2023-11-22T11:42:06.780-05:00Comments on Do Not Be Anxious: No One Loves MeDo Not Be Anxioushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04607616214486933423noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7332117297336636395.post-36349439826388945812013-11-19T10:01:58.802-05:002013-11-19T10:01:58.802-05:00Zachary, last year I wrote a posting here titled: ...Zachary, last year I wrote a posting here titled: You Are In A Dark Place. Perhaps you might use the search engine on this blog to find and read that one also.<br /><br />I've been listening to a CD this past week while driving. Titled "Just Him," by Brian Blum, it has many songs which resonate with me. One is titled: Your Are Loved (Don't Give Up). And the next is titled: Trust Him. I pray that those words can enter your heart. You are indeed worthy of love, even today. Not to make you into too much (or too little), but everyone is worthy of love. The Gospel I heard at mass this morning was about Jesus calling out to Zacheus, the sinful tax collector. Jesus wanted to sup with him, now. If we wait until we get our house in order before we look for Jesus, we'll never look. And we'll never see that He is, even now, looking for us, and waiting for us. I know we all want to BE loved, but notice that is not why we were made. What are the commandments for us to DO with our existence? To love God, and to love neighbor. To give love, is the commandment, not to greedily want it. <br /><br />And, as I so often found, when I gave it was when I most received it back. <br /><br />God bless you, my friend. Do Not Be Anxioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04607616214486933423noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7332117297336636395.post-36559499208216548732013-10-16T16:20:54.881-04:002013-10-16T16:20:54.881-04:00I'm glad these words spoke to you. As I'v...I'm glad these words spoke to you. As I've commented to many others who found something good here: "If you found some peace from these words here, no need to thank me. They probably really weren't my words; I'm just the messenger."<br /><br />Laura, if you glance at this blog's header, you'll see that I don't consider this a "Catholic blog." This is just what it says it is. My Catholic faith gives me comfort and solace, and sometimes I reference why here in this blog, but it is not the focus of the blog. You're welcome here anytime.Do Not Be Anxioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04607616214486933423noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7332117297336636395.post-4244278219768480602013-10-16T12:32:51.287-04:002013-10-16T12:32:51.287-04:00Thank you so much for this post. I will first have...Thank you so much for this post. I will first have to say though, that I'm not Catholic. But your post hit the nail right on the head. As humans we define our sense of love based on this world, rather than what the Word of God tells us. God tells us we are loved. The question is why is that not enough for us? We are looking in all the wrong places. Thank you so much for this today. God bless you. I totally needed this and I'm sure that there a ton of others out there who do too. :0)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16816291784265158258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7332117297336636395.post-22900906987577673872013-08-02T12:40:02.209-04:002013-08-02T12:40:02.209-04:00Dear Anonymous:
Happy (belated) birthday! Sorry ...Dear Anonymous:<br /><br />Happy (belated) birthday! Sorry this is past midnight your time; it is past noon mine. I'm sad that you feel so low, so unloved (note that I said "feel", not "are"). These things I write on this blog and not trivial matters, and I write them after much thought and reading, and prayer. I don't say them lightly. You and I seem to look at this world differently, even when looking at the same facts. Even knowing what you have written, I would say to you that "you ARE loved", even as you say "not everyone is loved." I would say that everyone "wants to be loved," even as you say "I don't crave love." And I conclude my thoughts by saying: "if you want to be loved, you must give love."<br /><br />My thoughts on love are underpinned by the words of Jesus Christ, who said our purpose, why we exist, is to know and love God, and our neighbor --- not to love ourselves. It's analogous to winning the lottery: "Why don't I ever win the lottery," some people may ask. The answer is: "Well, you've got to play first." Love is that way, the way we were created. <br /><br />I once wrote here about love, and how it is learned. I gave the example of a mother loving her child. As a baby, it wants that love, it craves it. But if it is raised properly, in later years it sees that same affection and learns a bigger lesson: I want to love like that. That is the lesson parents are meant to convey to their children; the parents give love not expecting anything in return --- but strictly because they value the life that God gave them to care for, a blessing.<br /><br />Perhaps, Anonymous, you were not taught that lesson well in your youth. Perhaps like so many people these days, you learned that looking out for yourself was most important. But it is never too late to learn how to love, to really love. It's not all about sex, as the movies or internet would have you believe, that getting that stuff or sensations we want. No, love is about giving of ourselves to another, showing them that we think they are special. We are human beings; every life is special. In part I believe that is true because God said so, but in part I know in my very being that is true. I am special, even as you are. I want to be loved, even as you do. But I (and you) need to not focus on that craving, but instead focus on giving love, to all those we meet, including your partner and your sons --- even if that love is not returned. Don't put dollars and cents on its value; it's value is you. You have something to give this world and the people in it: love. Even if you are alone, you make a difference in this world. <br /><br />My mother died last month; I have no partner, no children, no siblings. In many ways I am alone, but I have learned how to love. Right now I am in the process of giving away the furnishings of the home I rented for mom; many people have cried in thanks for the blessing of receiving these things they so basically need. Mom is dead, but she is making a difference in this world. People will remember her, through me, because she loved, and then I loved.<br /><br />And people will remember you, too. Do not be anxious. Do Not Be Anxioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04607616214486933423noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7332117297336636395.post-79009231205178768822013-08-02T09:36:21.160-04:002013-08-02T09:36:21.160-04:00In my case the topic is true. Today is my bday, it...In my case the topic is true. Today is my bday, its also the anniversary of my other half kidnapping my son and taking him overseas, my mother helped her with that. My mother had the audacity today to send me a bday message on facebook. She said a couple of years ago she never loved me from birth, thanks mum, it makes a lot of things she did to me when I was a kid so much clearer. I never knew my father, he just ran away when I was born and the guy she married has detested me since they married when I was five. My current partner hasnt even said happy bday to me (and its 10:40pm now, it doesnt look likely) just like last year and I'm now wondering if the $500 diamond necklace I had in mind for her bday in a couple of months is really worth it. Ive never been cheap with treating girlfriends to gifts, but I thought I might get a happy bday, clearly it doesnt mean much. I spent probably around $150 over the last two mothers days for her on behalf of my son with her but I'm not really recognised on fathers day. Its not about the money, it just demonstrates that I value her, I dont expect anything really, just a coffee maybe and a happybday/fathers day. Is that so much to ask? If she loved me I feel she would at least acknowledge these occasions and obviously its a simple act of reciprocity given that I try to show I value her and that her bday and mothers day mean something to me because I love her. I now wonder if this is my lot in life to be stoic in the face of such denial of my personhood by her. Will my sons ever appreciate me enough to wish me well on these days? Their mothers wont encourage it. No, I'm not loved but I simply hope someday my sons will show me some kindness, but its not up to them to prove I am worth something to someone, I am the adult. Unless their mothers remind them of these occasions, providing their mothers remember, I wont be. What kind of hollow accomplishment that would be, its tantamount to begging for recognition. You dont know me, dont even contemplate wishing me happy bday after you read this in 6 months, it really will mean nothing, or it might, I dont know. But no, not everyone is loved, and it breeds low confidence and diminishes your own worth and how you are valued. I dont crave love or expect it, but I thought I might be worthy of a little bit in light of how I try to make her feel valued everyday. This is anonymous so I still wait in the shadows hoping a birthday candle might give me a glimmer of hope.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7332117297336636395.post-47358133246523313202013-02-17T17:59:19.531-05:002013-02-17T17:59:19.531-05:00John, sorry I haven't gotten back to you. It&...John, sorry I haven't gotten back to you. It's been a very busy and stressful couple of weeks for me. Lots of thoughts to post here, but little time to post them. I glanced at your blog, and will offer you some comments there. It's a good step you are taking, a cover-to-cover reading of the bible. I think my spiritual journey began in a similar way --- and God began to speak to me.<br /><br />Anne, it sounds like that priest is a very wise man. Mom's back in the in-home hospice program; she sleeps much and eats little, typical signs of the end nearing. It would be nice if she were around for her 95th in April and her grandkids visit again. But that is up to God and His mercy. I've read so many good books lately, and seen so many good videos; I'd like to comment here on them all. It seems like God is speaking to me in almost everything I read these days; that's good, I need His presence. I guess He knows that, too. <br /><br />Lent is a time of fasting and alms, but it's a time to remember Love also. I hope you have much in your life.Do Not Be Anxioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04607616214486933423noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7332117297336636395.post-16691605024215874522013-02-16T19:11:41.095-05:002013-02-16T19:11:41.095-05:00Tom, this is so loving and kind-hearted. Recently...Tom, this is so loving and kind-hearted. Recently I was speaking with a priest who said it doesn't matter if someone is a seminarian, a priest or the president of an organization. That's all exterior. The only thing that really matters, he said, is who we are in our deepest identity. He said he wishes he had a way of convincing everyone that the only thing that matters is knowing that we are all the beloved children of God.Anne Benderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04795710781396825094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7332117297336636395.post-81563358754661919792013-02-12T19:28:10.693-05:002013-02-12T19:28:10.693-05:00Such a powerful post. Thank you. I am very fortu...Such a powerful post. Thank you. I am very fortunate to feel loved and to feel "rich." I agree that feelings are to the ultimate "reality." Sometimes very far from reality in fact. We need to remember, when we are in the dark, what we have seen in the light--and vice versa. St. John of the Cross. I try to keep this in mind when I am feeling low and unloved. I have a blog of my own and would be grateful if yu took a minute to have a look. http://onjacobsladder.blogspot.com/<br /><br />God bless.<br /><br />JohnJohnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11402458443105959873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7332117297336636395.post-57690684437746554312013-02-11T21:38:47.264-05:002013-02-11T21:38:47.264-05:00I titled this post deliberately somewhat false, fr...I titled this post deliberately somewhat false, from my point of view. I know I am loved, but I also know based on search-engine results which highlight this blog that there are many people in the entire world focused on depressing thoughts --- "I Hate My Father" is my most read post. So I'm sure there will be many future hits by people putting in "No One Loves Me" in the future. And I hope they read these words and realize how easily they are omitting the good things in their lives, the love they do receive ---- even if only from God. And how important it is for them to tell others that they are important, that they are loved.<br /><br />Our pope announced his retirement today. I heard many commentaries, but none mentioned WHY he chose today. Totus Tuus, on the Feast of Our Lady of Lourdes --- it was not a coincidence I'm sure. And he knows he is loved, I am also sure.Do Not Be Anxioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04607616214486933423noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7332117297336636395.post-17074419186329879242013-02-10T17:29:39.718-05:002013-02-10T17:29:39.718-05:00I think this is a truly wonderful post. How loved...I think this is a truly wonderful post. How loved we are, by God! And I was left ready to write out Christmas cards, as I thought of the people who have been special in my life "for a year or two, perhaps even for only months, yet I could tell you stories about them and our times together..." I love the idea of telling card-recipients they're special to me. I usually don't send out Easter cards, but I just might do so this year :)!Nancy Shumanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05584199691076992017noreply@blogger.com