Sunday, October 27, 2019

The First One to Change is Ourselves


There is great angst about the course of our country and the world, and the Church.  We hear of cardinals proposing changes to Church teaching to accommodate the world’s wants.  Change the Church so we can change people is the logic.  Christians are being rejected by the world, yet the response is to become what the world would want them to be.  Who is converting who?  Many are accepting this logic, in part, because they desire to change others, without fully knowing who they themselves are.  They want to spread a faith they don’t fully understand ---- but it “feels” good.  They are like warriors leaping into a battle with no armor or weapons of defense.
I attended a talk by Fr. Mark Livingston the other day.  The topic was Mary, the Mother of Jesus.  (I had mentioned here how much I was moved by an earlier talk of his on the Eucharist.)  Fr. Mark began his talk with the story of his conversion and his reaction at being overwhelmed by the Spirit: “It’s all true!” he exclaimed (exactly what I said when it happened to me).  More recently, Fr. Mark said, when asking God what He would have him do, he heard: Teach.  So, he began what will be monthly talks on the teachings of Christ reflected in the Catholic Church.  This sounds so simple, yet it rings of a very positive step to me.  There are so many “Sunday Christians,” people loosely educated in the faith.  These are not people who can go out and spread the faith; they don’t understand it themselves.  And their children, who also don’t understand it, are rapidly falling away.  The world is more attractive to them; they don’t see the beauty of Christ, His purpose, and what He taught was their purpose.  Many Christian churches have some “back to basics” programs, a good thing.  The Catholic Church has the Alpha program.  But there is a need for the next step, not just a general knowledge of Christ and His teaching, but the beginnings of a relationship with Him.  Fr. Mark freely talks about relationship as he explains what and why the Church teaches, and he talks about our purpose in life, why we were so uniquely created, here, now.  I think Fr. Mark’s talks fill a yawning gap for many “Sunday Christians,” who have a yearning for a better life, a more meaningful life, but don’t know where to begin.  I’m sure Fr. Mark’s call to teach is a call from God, and he seems to be answering it very well.
We need a deeper formation program for Catholics, to instill in them a knowledge and a love of God.  We cannot begin to change any others in this world until we change ourselves.  And now I’ll just write here some quotes from other readings God has put before my eyes this week, emphasizing the importance of this thought (and in case I didn’t get His first call --- He knows me so well. : - )  )
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The Formation of Apostles
--- Divine Intimacy
, #330
“If a soul dedicates itself to prayer and sacrifice, it will help others.” (But) “one who is just setting out in the spiritual life is not capable of attending to his own sanctification and the sanctification of others simultaneously; he should first have time to concentrate all his powers on his own spiritual formation.  A beginner will not be capable of exercising a very fruitful apostolate.  Jesus Himself spent thirty years in prayer and retirement, … to show us that before we plunge into the work of the exterior apostolate, we much have reached a certain spiritual maturity.  He treated the Apostles in a similar way: the three years they spent with Jesus were years of true formation for them.  Thus, true Catholic tradition demands that, before apostles go out into the field of battle, they must prepare themselves by the practice of an intense interior life, which will make them qualified, fruitful instruments for the good of souls.  Enthusiasm and good will are not enough.  A vigorous interior life, maturity of thought and judgment, and a - -spirit of sacrifice and union with God are also necessary.”
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From a letter to Proba by St. Augustine, bishop:
“Power shines forth more perfectly in weakness.  These words are written to prevent us from having too great an opinion of ourselves if our prayer is granted, when we are impatient in asking for something that it would be better not to receive; and to prevent us from being dejected and distrustful of God’s mercy toward us if our prayer is not granted, when we ask for something that would bring us greater affliction, or completely ruin us through the corrupting influence of prosperity.  In these cases, we do not know what it is right to ask for in prayer.
Therefore, if something happens that we did not pray for, we must have no doubt at all that what God wants is more expedient than what we wanted ourselves.  Our great Mediator gave us an example of this.  After he had said: Father, if it is possible, let this cup be taken away from me, he immediately added, Yet not what I will, but what you will, Father, so transforming the human will that was his through his taking a human nature.  As a consequence, and rightly so, through the obedience of one man the many are made righteous.
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All of these events and readings are talking about humility.  So much is wrong with the world and its leaders.  We want to change things for the better.  Or, we want to drop out.  We want to change things to what WE think is better --- but most of us have never fully learned what the standard for “better” is.  Fr. Mark teaching his parish; Jesus teaching his apostles; Augustine teaching a friend:  Power shines forth more perfectly in weakness.  Stop trying to change the world; start by changing ourselves.  We can only sow seeds; God will do the hard work.  We need greater humility, trust, and a desire to grow closer to Him, to know Him, to pray not expecting OUR answers. 
Before trying to change the world, we need to change ourselves. 

Friday, October 25, 2019

How to Teach Your Children, in Love


“And consider the patience of our Lord as salvation…”
 -- 2Pt 3:15
The Friday Morning Men’s Bible Study group often turns to personal examples to clarify Scripture’s meaning.  This morning, we gave examples of how simple Christian witness can change lives more readily than preaching words.  One man commented how a friend asked for a cup at the fast food place, but filled it with pop --- and the Bible Study guy mentioned it to him.  Another told how he doesn’t join in when the guys’ conversation on the golf course starts getting vulgar or cursing.  And for their small witness, they saw that they were noticed, and remembered.  There are many small ways all of us can witness our Christian faith by our actions, and so change lives.
I took the conversation a step further.  Getting back to the Bible passage we were studying (above), I noted that our public witness to others helps them know who we are, but it is our private witness that lets God know who we are.  If we don’t curse aloud, but say it in our mind, God hears.  If we tell others that prayer is important but don’t take time to pray, God knows.  What it all comes down to is the concept of sin --- something our culture pretends doesn’t exist.  Sin is not just something we do, but it refers to who our action offends --- God.  When we see someone stealing or cursing and comment on the action, what we are really saying is that “you have sinned against me, and who I am.”  In more loving words, what we are saying to the other person is: “You disappoint me.”  And for people who cherish our love and respect, that is a powerful statement.  When God says “You disappoint Me” to our hearts, we want to change, to stop sinning against Him, because we want His love and respect.
For parents, the same words, “You disappoint me”, can be a powerful tool to encourage our kids to change, without having to do any scolding or preaching to them.  And those words are a tool most parents have forgotten how to use, but we can follow the example of God, and help our children see those words in our patience, in love, with their sinful actions, and yet exhibit our encouragement for them to change, for their salvation.
Quoting “Honor thy father and mother” doesn’t get kids to change anymore; many young adults don’t respect God or His words.  They were taught otherwise in schools, by their friends, and by the culture at large.  But they still respect us as their parents; they still want our love.  When we see our kids sinning, not going to church, getting caught up in pornography, or abusing themselves with drugs or sex, talking to them of God often is often easily dismissed or even held against us, breaking off loving communications.  But “You disappoint me” may teach them that they are not just sinning against a God they no longer respect, but against us.  And like the Bible Study guys’ witness by their actions, it may be the teaching which goes to their heart.

Wednesday, October 23, 2019

Quiet Friends


Sunday was a beautiful day:  fall colors, bright sun, perfect temperature and just a hint of a breeze.  On an afternoon walk, I stopped at a friend’s home.  We sat on the deck, looking at the trees and the robins there eating the late summer berries.  She showed me the cameras she had recently installed nearby, with motion detectors to see enemies --- and friends.  From the cameras she had seen on her phone birds, and deer, and a walking stick insect, and “a pile of fur,” the tail of a visiting critter.  It all sound so beautiful, and blessed.  God sends us friends in the quiet of the night, that most of us are not even aware of.
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In the late-night hours in the adoration chapel, God is present.  Usually, it is just God and I, and we engage in intimate conversations on subjects we intimately understand.  This night a visitor arrives.  After entry, he makes no noise; this is God’s house.  And I know he also is having an intimate meeting, even as I am.  Only God could make two guests in the same room equally feel that they are the only ones there.
A few weeks back I was privileged to gain new insights into what a blessing this time is.  I somewhat randomly found myself reading Genesis, and the words where God directed Moses to build His worship tent in which was to be placed the Ark of the Covenant.  There were lots of words, and details about how many cubits and what types of materials were to be used.  God directed that an inner room be made for the Ark, where only the high priest could enter, and therein offer sacrifice.  And that room was called the Tabernacle.  Today, in the Catholic Church, the room where the Host is kept, the room where God exists, is also called the tabernacle, only under the New Covenant, now all the people may enter that room and give praise to God.  And there we commemorate God’s ultimate sacrifice on the cross, at every sacrifice of the mass.  But while now everyone can be present at the Sacrifice, not just the high priest, there is more.  While Jesus is still always within the tabernacle in the church, there also exists in the Catholic Church what are called Adoration Chapels.  There, in a small quiet room, Jesus is present on the altar for our visiting and adoration.  In the Church, the Host is reserved in the tabernacle, while in the Adoration Chapel it is as if we are IN the tabernacle with Jesus.  We enter His room, and are present with Him, right there, in His home.  And we can sit there with Him, visit Him, and have quiet intimate conversation.  This truly is heaven on earth.
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I’ve been quite busy of late, visiting people to whom I am a primary friend.  They are people who have few, if any friends, so they welcome a visit, even from me.  I bring them dinner, or groceries, or sometimes my home-cooked meals, and we spend some time together.  It is easy to see how much they treasure the time with me, or any visitor.  Only they have no others.  There are many people around us like this, only we don’t see them, kind of like the night visitors my friend now sees with her motion detector cameras.  Unless you make some deliberate efforts, you will not see them.  But they can bring you joy!
I used to have friends who would call me in the night.  Sometimes, they had a bad dream, and at others they just couldn’t sleep.  We talked, we prayed, and sometimes we just listened quietly until we heard the other sleeping.
It is very important to know that we are not alone, even in the quiet of the night.